The shoes I don't fit in

Hey! Stop; before you think it is going to be a Cinderella story, you are highly mistaken - we are not going to talk about any love story here. Not every shoe story is related to cinderella.

We all have different shoe sizes!

Everyone is at a stage of life which is distinct, just as how we have distinct shoe sizes. We all perceive things from our perspective, but some want to interrupt or fit into a shoe size that is not theirs. Furthermore, we enable them to do so; a round of applause for us.

If I wear a size 5, do you think a size 6 would be comfortable for me, or would a 4 fit perfectly? I'm sure you realise it's insane to even consider it, but think how you'd feel if someone who didn't know much about you provided their opinion on your circumstance. From my perspective, it should be uncomfortable too.

But, we ponder, we worry, we overthink, we stress over it again and again, and maybe we're thinking it incorrectly, maybe we're being too optimistic, maybe we're not allowed to be upset! Duh...Their one line made us think over it a billion times and made us anxious.

Everyone is dealing with their stuff, and everyone has their point of view on many issues. Yes, we would want to see things from another perspective from time to time, but it does not always imply that we agree with that viewpoint. But, you know, that is also fine, that people show us the other side of the coin, which is sometimes good for us because it helps us understand the situation, however, some people make us believe that our perspective is bogus, which is not the case; they want us to see things only from their perception.

Do you agree? We all have such characters in our lives who have convinced us that our thinking and our viewpoint are incorrect and that theirs is the best answer to all issues; once we walk in their shoes, life will be terrific. On the other hand, if we do not agree with something, why are we afraid saying it out loud that "you know I love you to have a different opinion about my whole situation but you know I will deal with it, in my way and in my own time."

How about listening to their point of view and moving on... we know the other side of the coin, but it doesn't imply our side is incorrect; perhaps they can't see or listen to our side!

Focus Point -

I love it when people compliment my shoes, so thank you! But it doesn't mean I'm going to share them. Similarly, I like your viewpoint, but it doesn't indicate I'll see the world through your eyes.

I'm not here to give you an advice or alter your mind; I'm only here to discuss the ideas we all are worried about - as by thinking about such thoughts, and overwhelming conversations, opinions, advice, or lines like "may you shouldn't do this" or "you are wrong" or "you deserve better." We waste our precious days only thinking or I should say over-thinking or maybe we are awake till late at night thinking about something which doesn't need our attention!

We just need to identify those that do not match our shoe size and keep them out of our lives! If you can't get them out of your life, simply try not to worry about it too much - sochne ki koi zaroorat nahi hai.... cause do you know stress is the beginning of all the health issues.

Now, Please leave your parents out of it since they are providing not only their perspective but also their life experiences, and always remember it was your dad's shoe that you first wore and stood in front of the mirror, or your mom's glittering heel - which you wore believing it made you seem cool!

Moral of the Story -

If we don't wear different shoe sizes, we have to understand that it's okay if our way of thinking about a particular situation or perspective can be different, can be funny, sad, or happy - it is our shoe - we will decide the colour, brand & design!

(Aao Sochte hain) Think about it this way: we love our shoes, and we would buy more different colours, designs, and brands if we want. However, people who like to share their shoes forcefully, "please try, it would look amazing on you." Politely decline by saying, "we love it, but ours is fine for now."

Thank you, would love to have your feedback :)